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Self-Soothing Poetry

I wrote poems for my mom.

April 4th is her birthday.

I wanted to illustrate some of the more endearing self-soothing behaviors we share in my family, stimming (self-stimulatory behavior) that I have in common with other people in my family who I love.

“Should I ever stop my autistic child from stimming?”

There’s kind of a no, and a yes answer to this…

If someone is in a safe and comfortable environment, then no, you shouldn’t stop them from stimming…the only real danger…is the judgment and embarrassment that can come from that…but if they feel like they want to do that,…you shouldn’t care what everyone else about them thinks…

There is a time…if it becomes self-injurious behavior…any kind of movement or action that’s done repetitively can cause some form of injury…if you feel someone is causing a lot of injury to themselves, that probably needs to be dealt with.

updated 12 April 2018

Poems removed. Sorry if you were looking for them! But you can read other poetry I’ve published in the past at lovely online journals that celebrate suppressed voices @ here, here, and here

There is quite a large difference between neurotypical stimming and neurodiverse stimming; the main difference being type and quantity. Those with autism or those who are neurodiverse will find their stimming takes on a slightly different profile, maybe different movements, different actions that are more obvious…and then when it comes to quanity, neurodiverse people actually stim a lot more than neurotypicals.

If you like my poetry, I have another blog called Reminiscencing that explores the different meanings behind words. It receives updates on the 2nd, 9th, and 29th; and since the 2nd was National Autism Awareness day, my most recent post touches on my relationship with autism as a word.

Lately I’ve been experimenting with emoticons as a chanting device, which I don’t imagine will turn out well, but I’m inclined to exercise the skill enough to see what I’m capable of, before I abandon the idea.

But I feel like I can get away with sloppier decisions like emoticons because I’m this is my sandbox to experiment, to play. And I’m definitely still in the play phase. While I took poetry classes during undergraduate and graduate school, and I have a couple of publications, I have so much literature to read and learn; like these are the two books currently sitting on my desk…

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Fresno has several established poets I deeply respect, though. So if you’re thinking, “Hmm, poetry, I used to like that before school made it not fun,” then I’d recommend purchasing books from these two recently released poetry collections by Fresnan poets, both accessible and emotionally satisfying reads:

It’s best to purchase directly from their websites so you know your patronage goes to them. You can pre-order Rough Fire by Ronald Dzerigian, too. I know I’m excited to receive my pre-ordered copy.


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Kourtnie McKenzie holds an MFA (Fiction) from Fresno State and a BA in English (Literature Studies) from Cal State Fullerton. When she isn't writing novellas, she's moonlighting as a professor at Fresno City College and College of the Sequoias. To read more of her writing, visit Kourtnie.net.

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